In our ward, we have a small primary. It is about 25 kids total. So instead of having a junior and a senior primary they combine it to have one. So today, when all the kids were in the primary room for primary, the Primary Pres. had announced that she had some "invitations" for the 4 girls. Ashleigh responded saying that she was 4. The Primary Pres. had ment the 4 older girls in the back who was old enough to attend the achievement day program. Because Ashleigh did not understand, she got really upset because she felt like she was being left out, and did not want to stay in Primary because that "would make her cry," she said. Chris and I tried to explain to her the invitation thing after we found out what that was all about.
I completely understand how she feels. We have lived in this ward for 4 years, and we have only had a few people that we have connected to and felt like we were friends and they have since moved on. (The Ramseys and the Elliots). The stay at home moms and we had one dad that have "play groups" and until like a few that we were invited too last year we have not been invited nor informed of. Our twins really only know each other and thought they love each other, they are desperate to have friends. This is one reason why Chris and I feel that this move will be good for our family. With hopes that we move to a neighborhood and ward with more kids their age so that they can have friends and other children to do things with.
I did make Ashleigh feel better when I told her that when we move into that house with more kids her age to play with, we will make invitations for the girls in her primary class to come over and have a koolaid party.
I love Ashleigh so much along with Matthew and Joshua, that I hate to see them hurt so much when they are not included with a activity and have their feelings hurt.
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Cathy,
We always want you to come to the play group. I'm not the one making the calls but I will make sure they call you every week! We usually always just meet at the church on Thursdays at 11.
I know that many people are going to be sad when you move out of the ward. I am one of them!
Cathy, I know where you're coming from. Though, I've been on both sides.
We've never done a play group. I work and it's too hard to figure out schedules. We would often go to the park or a play land at a fast food place and I'd let Allison "make new friends" with the kids there. Once Allison was old enough, I got her involved in dance and preschool, etc. That way she could be around kids. This worked for me/us. She has come to me a few times asking why she can't go to the Activity Days events with the older girls. I would just sit down and explain, that once she turned 8 she would get to do that fun stuff, too. But that we get to do fun things together just me and her for now. I've had to explain it more than once, but she seems to be okay with it most of the time.
I have to say, I also know the flip-side. I've been in 3 primary presidencies and know how difficult it is to run everything. Sometimes it is lots easier to just announce all of the activities for the kids. We will announce cubs, activity days, quarterly, stake, etc. in our closing exercises. I've yet to hear any parents/kids complain about it.
It's still good to know that some kids have tender feelings and to watch for reactions.
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